I pride myself on planning things out. 90 percent of the time, I’ve got everything for my day, and the next planned out. Every now and then I play it by ear, but it’s never anything that’s going to be outrageously out of sight.
I’m 25 years old. A lot of people that I graduated with have kids and are married. That’s not in the plan, at least for now. I’m blessed to have a wonderful girlfriend who is not the type to be aggressively pursuing me to impregnate her, much like other girls who are scared of their biological clocks, even though a lot of them are in their early 20’s, and have nothing to worry about.
Same goes for marriage. I’d like to get married one day. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years, and known her for 8. We even graduated together. She’s the girl I have my eye on for marriage, but we both know it’s not the right time. We both don’t want to be living paycheck to paycheck. We want to have everything set right, so we don’t have to worry.
My job just ended 2 days ago, and I’m already looking for another one. I had an interview yesterday, and I won’t hear anything for 2 weeks, so I’m going to continue looking. I have no worries, because as even my folks said, ‘You’re not married, and you have no kids, and you live with us.” That is a great weight that I’m thankful is not on my shoulders. I could only imagine how it would be if I had at least 2 kids by this point, and been married for a few years. I’d be freaking out.
Marriage will come first for me. I plan on getting her an engagement ring someday soon. That doesn’t mean that we’re going to get married in a month or something like that. We’re not in any rush at all. We could be engaged for 2 years before we settle down, and that would be fine with both of us. I’ve talked about this with her too, so it’s not like I’m just pouring out thoughts without considering her.
Same thing goes for having a child. That’s a huge responsibility that I know I’m not prepared for now. One can never truly prepare for having a child, but one can at least know when they are ready for one. I don’t want to have one until I’m financially stable enough to provide, and to take care of the child. She has the same thought. She’s not really kid crazy at all, and I’m of the mind that 1 child is enough. So once again, we’re not in any rush to propogate the species.
I count myself really lucky to have found someone like her. She’s smart, intelligent, and of course beautiful. I’ve told her I’m going to write a blog about her, and she’s so modest by saying “why?” I’m not counting this as the blog about her, since there’s not a lot of information about her, and our relationship. Just the part about having a plan.
It’s always good to have a plan. It can certainly help out in the end. This is not to knock on the people who started early to raise children and get married. If it was that time for them, then it was that time. I just know that that time has not arrived yet for me.
Rene’s song of the day: “Necros Attacks” by John Barry.
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